Jealousy.! Is it positive or negative ?

Jealousy: Is it  positive or negative ??

In my opinion, both of them have the right to be jealous. Jealous is a good quality and it reveals that your partner cares about you and it is a kind of love. I think Jealous adds sweet to our life, without jealous there will be no love. Women are more jealous than men as I see in the real life; because women always follow their feelings and I think men don’t like women who are too much jealous.

 Thank you Minora

Some men are with the idea that women can have jealousy. But they do not have the right to take any procedure against them. Women in such a case, can not shout, or stop men to do any unlikely behaviors. They have only the feeling to be jealous. So they must do everything for the husbands in order not to look for other. Men in this case take it as a mere feeling that a woman has only to be positive to the husband, i.e. she should offer him all means of comfort and enjoyment.

Sometime this problem leads some families to divorce .

Jealousy is not a right that law or human legalities put under a classification in the international "portfolio" of rights. In fact, jealousy is a sensation that grows with the growth of the human to be called a human instinct. Therefore, I can't let the feeling of jealousy belong to any party, gender, race or whatever classification. It's a feeling that I can say is found in human beings generally. But the significant point here is that the level and the characteristics of this feeling really differentiates between the two genders in general. Additionally, jealousy could vary in its nature within a single gender due to some genetic variations. As a result of what I said previously, I can tell that jealousy is what I can't say for men or women, and if it is considered a right that no one can takes, so it's for both no matter what happens because it's what we were born with and lived having it through our complex sensations. To add, I think that Jealousy is required as well for stability in people's lives, safety in great empires and countries and, finally, for progression, advancement and improvement in different fields and that's by motivating you to break through the hindrances to reach a level others have reached prior to you. Nevertheless, jealousy isn't that instinctive sensation that always leads you to positive consequences, but it really got some negativity in case it was misused. The fact that intuition is always perfect is really mistaken. You are the one who has the control and the operation on your inborn behaviors, starting from "sex" to money possession to simply food consumption and so forth. But the important thing to say,  it's not bad to find a jealous man or a jealous woman in a reasonable moderate rate and way, and it's not to approve for that and not for that, as long as jealousy has that major importance in "man-kind's" life.

 Hi Loyalle.

Do you agree with me that Jealousy is a matter of culture especially in Muslim countries????

Actually, the reason of this feeling is a matter of culture. The sexes may naturally have this feeling. But a problem occurs from time to time about who has the right to be jealous, the man or the woman

hi,this course is nice!!… i think that jealousy is neither man's  nor women's monopol, it is a human behaviour it's in the nature of things, it's necessary to be jealouse but in a moderate way……….. be jealouse but not possessif lol

I agree with you Hakimi, and I previously gestured to it. Jealousy is an instinctive feeling but this feeling can lead to positive or negative consequences. The path it is moving in is really controlled by you, so it can be positively boosting the keen on saving the country from an enemy or protecting your sister from a sexual harassing person for instance. And it can be negative in case of extravagance that can cause some serious problems in the society. Simply, it's known that people's ideas and behavior are seriously affected by the communal life and the culture prevailing in the surrounding community, and so, that sense of jealousy varies from a society to another due to the diversity of the cultures and the traditions. So you can see that, yes, the variation of cultures cause a variation in different reactions of different sensations including jealousy.

it's great topic.

and i always think about what jealousy is??

is it a feeling or a behavior???

anyway,it's a man and woman's right to be jealous…

u feel that ur stomach tighten if u see ur wife flirting with another man.

and she turns to a monster if she finds her husband attractive to another woman.

>>>this is a fact.

but the problem is when this feeling is cross the lines?

what's the result?

in my opinion, crazy jealousy is a sign that ur relation with ur lover in danger and not a sign of love as everyone thinks.

coz no one here can differentiate between love and jealousy..

u have to control it ..

for both u guys girls or boys:

u have to control ur jealousy to protect ur relations.

take a deep breath if u see something bad..

and try to solve it realistically.

become mature and don't think childish.

thanks again for ur topic..

it's really wonderful.

 and i have alot to say.

but i will come again

ta ta

Being possessive and jealous is not a sign of love. These are signs that you are thought of as an object to be locked away, not as a human to be cared for. Every human needs contact with others, with friends and family. This is part of what makes you a well rounded individual.

Thank you Julee and thank you Nu Pogodi for your sharing  and for the Beautiful illustrations photographs.

Is there a person agrees with me that jealousy sometimes turn into a chronic illness ?

Hi hakimi every time u surprise us with your subjects,,,,,   Jealousy is a human instinct ,All the humanity born with it ,even the child has jealousy,, but we can’t say It’swomen right or men .I think they share the same right. the important thing that jealousy should be under control ,bcoz without the control ,it could destroys our lives, specially  between lovers or husbands and wives.but who make jealousy control him, he will be alone  ,sometimes jealousy lead to hate  and that what we should avoid it . (as u said hakami it may becomes problem). finally we can’t ignore the sweetness of jealousy between the lovers, bcoz it shows how much they care and love each other…. ..