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Friends,

Friendship between man & woman fails because man reachs to woman from a friend.Why it happens so.

I feel it's because man remains always under the influence of sex but he can suceed if he moves from sex to beyond sex state of existence.

Where as woman always try to save herself from the greedy mind of man.

When during a friendship they come a little closer man feels sexual influence in his body & shows his interest in womanhood rather than fried itself.

this destroys the beauty of friendship & it fails.

But why it happens always ? there must be some existential reasons.

I feel that woman feels herslf as 'prey' & sensitive woman feels man as 'beast'.

Whenever she realizes beastness of man, she shrinks within to save herself from the beast.

Now the question is why man turns beast ? I feel it is existential aggressiveness nature of man.where as woman is passive,Man has the pupose to love woman,whereas woman has the purpose to accept the love of man.

Both are standing at opposite poles of the existence, woman is always at point of beyond sex,provided she doesn't fall from her spiritual state.

Where as man's stae is reverse,because of his existential nature he is always in sex or thinking about sex i.e. in stae of'sexuality'. so when man comes near to woman his existential powers start working & he becomes greedy to have the woman.

So man is always at a state of mind from where he has to rise from 0 to 100,from sex to beyond sex & it is like to climb upon Mount Evrest. Every man can't do this so friendship between man & woman fails. 

Dev i was reading artical about marriage and its problem  and i saw your topic i thought you are talking about expecting and interests from marriage. i'm a sleep realy

Dear Hkimi,

We are not talking here'about expectations from marriage'we are talking about 'friendship' alone.

But in real marrige of understanding

the needs of both male & female are fulfilled,both get security, loyality, playmateneess, support, & it is not like to be searched anywhere but they are the bye products of love, of understanding. what we try to get through laws, religious traditions, are the bye products of 'a good relation'

But no law ,no religion can supply trust or understanding.

But religion has the capacity to make us aware & open our eyes to grow us to 'lovers & learn capacity to love'. But we have to learn. 

As we know from the science of physics, both pluses and minuses attract each other. So, the same thing is between men and women. And this is quite natural phenomenon. But on the other hand, men and women between themselves have a physical flaw, which stops them of being more than friends, at least most of them, we always have exceptions, but those are still a minority. In reality a man is the compliment of a woman, and vice-versa. But there are still other kinds of possibilities, I mean when there's no physical attraction, in such case such friendship is possible. But everything depends on the way we look at friendship!

I don’t know…I really believe in friendship between men and women..;)...

dev ..sorry … what u mean?..
I do not agree at all
Well .. Did you mean ….. friendship or relationship ?
If you mean friendship?

Do not have girlfriends?

 is freindship that's bad?
If did  mean the relationship .. 
then  always  relationship is  failed?  

so  can we  consider  marriage always are  succeed  ?
I am not against or with the marriage ..
But I think that of things agree   upon by both partners ..

I think the friendship never failed if they both treasured and respect each other as friends. 

Those actions of men only happen if the girl shows initiatives in enticing the guy which motivates the man to do such thing, not unless the man is in "high" condition, meaning he was under the spirit of marijuana, opiates or cocaine.

dev my friend , it's a nice topic and i like to give my opinion.

i think that real friendship never failed .may be it can change it's way.it's men's and women's nature to look for a partener.so if a friend love her/his friend it's so normal and it does not happen only because of sexual influence.this love can be share or not.it depends on their feelings and their conditions.

it's existential to have a strong sex desire.if it is not so.humanity will go to extinction.but, some men are sex hunters and they can never succeed in friendship with a woman.when we understand our human side.it 's  woman.

bonz,we usually think that the woman is guilty when her friend loves her and it's  true in all cases.we like to blame women for physical attraction while men have a big responsibilioty,too.a man can be attracted to his friend because of her personality and human side.even if she gives him no ebcouragement.and she is not guilty in this case.she has to understand his feelings even she doesn't  share them.

Dear Hakimi,

Men & women beweenthemselve have a physical flaw

No dear Hakimi it's not a flaw, we think so because of our conditioning of minds,actually it's 'balancing' of existential energy.to clear it more I would like to give an physical example

As two tanks of water having water in them are joined to gether by at outlet end through a pipe,what will happen it will balance the levels of both of the tanks & if they are not connected they will remain in situations they are but both in uneasyness of the pressures.

When man & woman get locked themselve in 'sucurity shells'they doubt each other & without trust no relation of friendship arise,they become hypocrite & start following other rather than themselve & distubs the harmony of a relation.

In this way we deny existence & hence get frustrated.

Dear Lilimira,

The friendship fails in the sense that we do not the high altitudes of friendship.We start reading faces & effects of our behaviour upon others,which loses our originality & we start becoming hypocrite.

Ryo,

I might be wrong,I feel failed in the sense that oth enter in'security cells',& loose existential expression & start keeping limits & behave through a distance, I feel that we have not experience the friendship's or relation's high altitudes.

I might be nightmaring.