(another thing happened .he missed me ..)I really wanna cry loudly

 one of his friend told me , my boyfriend miss me ,and he would be very sad when he back to usa can not see me for a long time.  i am very happy to hear that….but it is him said we finished. now seems that he regret..but the problem is he always share every feeling to his friend not me.so sometimes i dont know his idea..this things happened for a long time. now i just wanna take him as a friend..but it is difficult for him to do.he either take me as a lover or take me as a enemy..i dont wanna miss such friend…anyway time willsee…....

                                                                                                                                                                                    the things is :     i am a chinese girl, and my bf is American…we always have a fight…and it always i make it first. but i am not deliberate..i really love him..yet this is not always the case .i am very sad , right now we had a big fight again, and i dont know  how is our relationship now ? break or something else…i dont wanna hurt him …i dont know how to be his gf,because he is my first love..i  were think hightly of  this relationship…but he is angry with me .he said i am not a good girl….i dont know how to do now ..my heart is very tired….i wanna forget him… but when i am alone i always think of him…always…

    and now he is prepare to back to USA for business..but he will come bcak to china….i always wanna cry …and sad , cause i dont know how to do..how to forget him.. and how to make him forgive me …..

   when i writed this i was crying …...it is true…...i am very sad…

    someone wanna help a poor girl???..

u said u'r not deliberate, i think it's the main problem. having a gf who always act like a baby is not a nice job that a boy would like to due with.

u should be more considerate if u wanna keep every realtionshop, including fdship.

hope my advice can help u la.

The first love is always the hardest.

thank you both of you….i think i will verry well in the future…我会挺过这个first love 的….

to:  Carrie  ..   你系HK住啊? 我系深圳,过多几日我就会去HK葛了…屯门果度..

The first love is always the sweetest so enjoy it whole-heartedly but don't try to forget love or lover when facing problems. Try your best to keep it if it really belongs to you.

Dear girl, look, I am 28 years old… I expected 27 years to find the right love.  He is not my first love, but it's the real one.

Look, love is always hard, specially when we love so much as I see you love this guy… u know why I know it?  Coz I love your sweetheart with all I have (mind, soul, brain), he is from Libya… yes, it's a net relationship but I am so happy.  We are limited coz our societies, we're so different in mind, the geographic distance and his job that takes almost all his time.

We have been together for more than one year, we have been apart many times for a period of 2 months… coz I never had a bf in my country and I don't really know how to face a relationship.   When you love someone so much, as you love your bf and I love mine, we're always so vulnerable and exposed to pain.  Don't be so sad… if he loves you, he will back to you.  My boyfriend always got back to me, even when it had been easier to him find a beautiful girl on his country, someone less complicated than me.

I know what you're passing through coz the same happened to me with my baby many times… every time we had a fight it was caused by myself, unintentionally… but anyway I caused it and I cried like you, I've cried a lot in all this time coz I thought that I lost him.  Believe me, if it's real love, he will back to you… let me tell you a secret to make your relationship work: the secret it's trust.

My boyfriend it's 20000 kilometers far away from me, but we trust each other.  He knows that I am always chatting and meeting new male friends, but he is not worried at all, you know why?  Coz he always says that he trusts in everything I say to him.  Many of my muslims and arab friends ask me if my bf knows that I chat with other men and how it can be that he allows it.  Well, he is enough man to see the deep love I feel for him, I don't have eyes or heart for anyone else.. he knows me very good.

By my side, a friend suggested that my bf was hiding from me coz he can't come online often and offered me a program to check if he was online or not… but I didn't hesitate, I said no, coz in a relationship, trust is the main ingredient.  If I can make my relatioship (North Africa-South America) work… sure you can make the same with yours.

Give your boyfriend some time to calm down, I did that every time with my baby, and he always got back to me.  Don't be heartless or hopeless… just let him know how much you love him, make him understand that the problems you're facing comes from the love so big that you have for him… it helps the man to understand you better and be kinder with you.

Hope my words can help you a little, God bless you my dear.

You know what? Forget him.. His not an ideal man., If he really loves you, then, he will not make things that will hurt you. Go on girl.. you can handle this. His just a man… There's a lot of guys better than him and will treat you right… The man who will take care of you and your feelings and treasure it forever. Learn lesson from your experiences gurl… :)

Go on… cry… as loud as you can but make sure it will not be disturbing… Hehehehe!

GOD Speed! 

thank you Lamastak habeeby'sadvise… i am better now ….i am very appreciate you for telling me so much thing about love .i will Set a good example  from you…..

also thank you bonz's idea….actually ,it is me hurt him.. but i am not deliberate…

What???? It is you who hurt him? Am I right? 

Your relationship has a problem and… 

What is the cause of the problem? How that problem occur? Maybe you need to analyze everything, for you to be able to come up with the solution. If you think you are the cause of the problem then, I think you are the only one who can solve the problem. :)

He says that you're not a good girl… – In what way? Are you acting like what? Try to think of these things.. Maybe you made mistakes (but you didn't say it there) and these mistakes leads him not to like you anymore that's why he's showing you some traits that results you to make decision to  ended the relationship with him. -maybe because he doesn't want to be the first one to settle the break-ups. 

But base on your statements.. I think it's your boyfriend's fault. :) Sorry if I hurt you for that…  

no,, you did not hurt me …

 he ask me not to fight with him when i sleep with him the night before.. but the next day.. i fighted with him… he hate me for i broke my word….  and this is the problem….

you know .i am not a open girl on sex,, i dont want to sleep with him ,because i still a student…..... so we always argued about sex…...