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 How do you release past hurts and betrayals in order to gain more trust in your relationship? How do you    not project those past hurts onto your current partner?"

you have to be mature enough to do that.that's all.you have to believe that each experience is completely different from the other.

just prove to him/her that you are honsty

Thank you lili .Ryo
You are right have to be mature enough,and every experience is different each other,but how we can make it is better? as Ryo said just be honest to him or her
Some of the reasons we come together in anyrelationship are to help each other to heal, to learn and to grow—and this includes healing past hurts. The opportunity for healing in a relationship can come in the form of showing us an exaggerated version of the scenario from the past that we’re holding on to, a mirror for us, or showing us an alternative way of being. What we’re saying is that if you’ve buried pasthurts, they will come up—but that doesn’t meanthat they have to ruin your current relationship.

Friends,

I feel that honsty & intention to grow are the contents of our growth.they help us to watch & judge our actions & give maturity to us,by which we can observe the knots in relations.

I think our life is a field of trials and sometimes we become seriously hurt in order to succeed through.But with the passage of time we keep undergoing many experiences and become mature and brave enough to face hardships manfully.I guess if there is no hurdle and problem in life,there would be no room for betterment.So learn from ur past misakes which make u feel hurt and try to make others happy.U will ,inshallah, feel released from the past miseries.I hope so for every one.

thanx for reading it.

thanks for writing it,rabi.thanks for your nice wish.i totally agree with you.

It depends on personality. Some people can't waive past, but some people can. I'm afraid of the one that can't. Most of them can't face the fact and might let the tragedy happen again. I always think that I can find a better next one if I am betrayed by someone.

I don’t know, maybe you can find another love for a while. It can cure your broken heart. Even if it’s still being shadowed by your past relationship. But to be honest, I had a bad time with love. And smhow, until now, I can’t forget her. But I hope my advise’d give you a hint to find the right one for you. All you have to do is open up your heart for another girl to be your closest one. And you should also give yourself the chance to love again.
Good luck.

 Dev ,Rabi88 and szoz..lili and Ryo

Thank you for your valuable sharing i appreciate your viewpoints …you have actually added to mine a lot of ideas and thoughts ,, Mike thanks for your advice i will try to flow it it will sounds as running away to the front  ,,Mike you read only half of my question,,just headline.of Q.

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If you or anyone know how to deal with any of the following
issues, problems or challenges in our relationship or
marriage…

~ lack of trust
~ lies
~ jealousy
~ infidelity
~ cheating
~ partner looking at "Adult "
~ forgiveness after an affair
~communication challenges

Share me please these issues or problems…thanks in advance for any viewpoints you will give me..

Note..this is not my past ,its trying to shed-light on problem could happen for anyone..